Sallie Felton, Life Coach, Weblog

April 26, 2010

Networking…”Who am I really?”

When someone asked me about networking today, they were surprised to hear that “I HATE IT”. Why? Because it is not my strength to go into a room, shake hands, hand a card, ask what the other person does or offers, and then go to the next person…and so on….and so on…

It may work for others, but not for me. Let me share what works for me. I make a date/appointment to meet a “prospect” for coffee either in the morning or late afternoon. I begin by saying how pleased I am to have them take the time out of their busy day to meet with me. We share what each of us does, and then I change the subject. PURPOSELY!

I ask, “WHAT’S YOUR PASSION? WHAT MAKES YOU WANT TO GET UP AND DO WHAT YOU DO? WHEN ARE YOU AT YOUR BEST, WORST, AND SHARE SOME PERSONAL WIN/WINS. WHAT HOBBIES DO YOU LIKE, AND WHY? TELL ME ONE THING ABOUT YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE THE MOST PROUD OF. WHAT IS ONE DREAM THAT YOU WANT TO COME TRUE AND HOW WOULD YOU DO IT?”

These questions might be out of the ordinary, but they reveal quite a bit about the person. In order to build the funnel of trust, one has to know the person they are dealing with. Is this someone you would like to do business with? Why? It is all about building relationships. Start where you stand, and who will you call next?

Let me know how it goes, what’s your secret?

Sallie

May 5, 2008

A BREATH OF FRESH AIR!

LISTS OF GOALS COMPLETED TO DATE:

#s 1, 2, 3, 7, 8, 9, 13, 15, 16, 17, 21, 22, 26, 30

NEW GOALS COMPLETED IN THE PAST TWO WEEKS TO BE ADDED TO THE ABOVE:

#14 the loft above the mudroom is completely sorted, reorganized, and boxes labeled. all unwanted items were freecycled

#18 planted one half of the vegetable garden, other half to be done in two weeks when the weather is a bit warmer

#22 completed going through every file in all the cabinets: shed, simplify, combined

#26 all living room cabinets under the bookcase have been cleaned out and simplified (HUSBAND LUCKED OUT AND ACQUIRED TWO MORE CABINETS FOR HIS PERSONAL FILING)

#3 took more to the consignment store

WHAT I LEARNED:

At first I was daunted by the amount of stuff in the loft. As we do not have an attic or basement, much of the items we want to keep protected ends up there. Extra lampshades, pictures, small rugs, kids pottery, sentimental childhood items (kid’s personal ones), current paints etc. In my mind I sectioned off the space and did 1/4 of the area at a time. This made the space DOABLE and MEASURABLE. Remember the SMART goals: s-specific, simple; m-measurable; a-attainable; r-realistic; t-time oriented.

RENEW, REUSE, RECYCLE:

Again, my new best friend is freecycle.org. When there is something I don’t need or could think someone would use it more than myself…on it goes…posted onto freecycle. During my last post, I thought I beat my personal best with someone instantly responding to a post. Well you should have seen the response when I posted a digital camera and printing dock!!! Yes, I could have spent the time and posted it for $ on EBay or Craigslist, but I find the sooner the items are out of here, the better I feel. TO BE ABLE TO MOVE AROUND IN THE LOFT WITH NOTHING UNDERFOOT is a breath of fresh air.

WHAT’S NEXT:

7. another batch to go to the consignment store tomorrow

25. call the Town Hall and ask them what their policy is on recycling and disposing of paints environmentally

How are you all doing? Would love to hear your comments.

Sallie

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April 23, 2008

RAN A MARATHON

LISTS OF GOALS COMPLETED TO DATE:

#s 1, 2, 3, 7, 15, 21, 22, 26, 30

NEW GOALS COMPLETED IN THE PAST TWO WEEKS TO BE ADDED TO THE ABOVE:

# 17 all garden beds are simplified

# 9 the painting for the kitchen, breakfast room, den, back-hall are all scheduled for the late fall

# 8 I have a buyer for the hot tub!

# 13 the potting shed is completely cleaned and all extra supplies have been freecycled

# 16 all bushes and trees have been pruned

Yes, one could say the weather could not have been more perfect for me to get the grubby clothes on and hit the dirt running. With shovels, loppers, water and good nights sleeping….every bit of energy has been spent outside. In New England the weather can change in an instant. Remember in some of my past blogs I stressed to make sure a priority is time. Exactly, for me, choosing to work outdoors in the good weather is picking time and place critically. I could say I still needed to work inside, but the summer weather will be hotter and I will be able to accomplish inside whatever is on the list during the heat or rain.

WHAT I LEARNED:

Even though it was 60 degrees this past week, in the attic of the garage it was 85 degrees and getting hotter. Smart to work on uncluttering that area while I could feeling energized. I realized that this area needs to be accomplished much earlier in the Spring season. So this will be next on my list.

(what I also learned…proofread again for spelling mistakes in my blogs!!! lol)

RENEW, REUSE, RECYCLE:

My husband is quite worried.I am running a marathon. Whatever I clean out, I put on freecycle.org. It is fast paced and hard to keep up. By the time I post what I want to declutter on the site, there is someone who wants it. Beat my own personal record…posted the item and within 2 minutes it was spoken for!!! I LOVE IT. Makes my day to know it will be used. This is addicting. Challenges me even more. There are 24 articles that will be picked up here today. 24 items that will not go in the landfill! 24 items that will be renewed and reused…all because of recycling.

so check the site out: freecycle.org or craigslist

WHAT’S NEXT:

1. Decluttering the other half of the garage attic

2. Cleaning out another cabinet in the living room

3. Taking newer items to the consignment store

4. Freecycling items that are up in the loft

whew….I AM DRUMMING FASTER THAN THE ENERGIZER BUNNY!!!

How are you all doing??

Sallie

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April 1, 2008

I AM ON A ROLL!

Accountability:

In the past week I have:

1. I have collated, hole punched all articles and photos of our son’s last 5 years on the professional freeskiing circuit. This has been something that I have wanted to complete for so long, but kept putting it off because it looked so daunting. And now here it is, labeled with tabs, so any other information can be easily entered. What a great feeling!!!!

2. All business files are done and each night before I leave the office the paper is filed

THIS IS CREATING A GOOD HABIT!!

3. All books in my office have been organized by author’s name and categorized by topics

4. OFFICE COMPLETED!!

5. Tackled one of the cabinets in the living room. I stored financial papers which are no longer necessary to keep. Shredded them all. One cabinet down…three more to go.

6. Put four items on the freecycle list in the morning ….by the afternoon they were all gone, and picked up here at the house.

I am on a roll…………….

What I Learned:

One Step at a time….I know I keep saying that, but it is true. A little bit…just being able to reorganize all the books in my office, was a huge undertaking. But I did one shelf at a time. Less daunting to me that to take all the books out and see them in a huge pile. So figure out what works best for YOU.

Cannot believe the freedom I feel with having people take what I don’t want. Knowing that they can use them only spurs me on to do more!!! Even my husband is a bit scared to come home now, fearing what might not be here!

Hints: Recycling all the shredding materials to use as packing materials. Put them all in a see-through container or garbage bag (labelled) and store in the basement or by packing supplies. Will use it around the Holidays.

What’s Next:

1. Today is a warmer day, so I am going out into the Tool Shed, Goal #13 and working at freecyling all those extra garden supplies I do not need. If you don’t want to freecycle use Craigslist.org.

2. Will do another cabinet in the living room.

How are you all coming along with your projects?

Warmly and with motivation,

Sallie

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March 29, 2008

WOW, FREER AND LOVING IT

LIST OF GOALS COMPLETED TO DATE:

#21, #1, #7, #2, #30, #15, #22, #26, #3, #7 ongoing weekly

 What I Learned:

I am amazed that nine of my goals for 2008 have already been complete. That is 9 out of 30!! Not bad and it is already March. The momentum continues and as I gather the next group of goals, I find myself like a steam engine…..this can be contageous.

 Accountability:

#1 goal of Redoing my entire filing system for my business is now COMPLETE! Recycled 8 paper bags of paper!

#7 goal taking those unneeded items to be donated or on freecycle are constantly being tended too. Posted items on freecycle and they were gone in 24 hours….

Donated Sarah’s blue prom dress and an ecru chifon skirt. Took them to the dry cleaners where they are having a drive for prom dresses, they loved them! What a wonderful feeling to know that some girl will be able to go because of Sarah’s generosity.

Hints/Tips: Do a little at a time…one shelf, one drawer, one closet…take your time. It will get done.

Recycke:Remember to donate: here is a place for your books!!

www.gotbooks.com/troops

What’s Next:

Have begun to tackle one shelf at a time in my office. By tonight I should be finished.

Living Room, downstairs bathroom, dining room will be next…one shelf, one draw, one closet at a time

So how are you doing?

Sallie

February 8, 2008

HOW TO PRIORITIZE/COMBINING YOUR GOALS

Accountability: (Goal #2) Last night before I connected with my FREE Conquer Clutter class, I sat in the den with my husband watching the news. Knowing that I needed to keep whittling away at the warranty, appliances, and vacation files, I found the time sitting by the fire to be a masterful way of multitasking. Job done, length of time….one hour. Files back into the file drawer labeled on the outside, “Household, Pets, Kids, Travel, Airlines, Important Documents, Computer.” 

What did I learn: When trying to accomplish a task that I don’t particularly like to do: especially the warranty and appliance folders (can’t get more boring than those), I felt more energized to be in the company of someone else. My husband and dog were there which made the chore less of a drudgery.

Hints/Tips: Throw out all those warranties that are outdated or appliance instructions for the appliance that you no longer own. Time to review what is in there. If you have the appliance, mark on the instruction page what the MODEL and SERIAL number are…if you have the date  when you purchased it (and even better, the receipt) staple those all together.

Recycle: When I came to doing the vacation file, I found I did not need three ski maps of a mountain or a brochure dated 1998. What to do? I use those for wrapping paper! Yup, I put them in the bottom of a bureau drawer which contains all wrapping paper, tags, ribbons, scissor, and tape. Perfect for some of those small presents. I love to see something different and cleverly recycled.

How To Prioritize/Combining Goals:

Pull up “My Goals” blog and take a look at the list. I will share with you how I begin to review the prioritization process of my own. Here is my thinking process:

1. what season are you in…what can be done now?

2. what can you do inside of your house that you can’t do outside?

3. make a notation by your goals of the month  this will be done

4. if there is a repair, which season do you need it for. Ex: screens needing repair? Fix in the winter, ready for the summer

5. paint rooms, do in the winter: less expensive and painters are looking for inside jobs

6. think of spring cleaning: fresh…renewed…go through closets and drawers

7. outside work waits until the late spring, like me if you live in the northeast

I review my list and make a notation of what needs to be finished by a certain SEASON. For example, #15, screens in my office. What a perfect time now to call and have them fixed, as I don’t open up the windows up here in the Northeast during the winter. Therefore, I make a notation of the Month that these will be repaired; March. They will all set and ready to go in the Spring.

Notice that some of the items can be done in the summer (# 12, garage is not going to be cleaned or sorted through in -2 degrees winter weather; I am hearty, but NOT my priority to freeze out there) therefore, I make a notation next to garage, do in the early summer months: May, June early July. # 24 and #25 will be completed with the Garage at the same-time. #13, tool shed to be cleaned out, same method applies, early summer. Again can be done even in the rain. These two jobs can be done one after another. Mark that. In the filing category: #2, #3, #21, #22 all have the same theme…just different jobs to be done. They could all be combined at the same time. For me this is a seasonal priority. I can do this while being snowed in!

Get the picture? If you are stuck, email me at sallie@salliefeltonlifecoach.com

Taking the Weekend off, more next week: #29 schedule and make time for old friend, #30 redesign early morning routine…make habit forming

February 7, 2008

Furiously Finishing

ONE GROUP DOWN!!!

As of last night, I finished our youngest child’s personal folder/files. It felt great to be able to have completed this task. I lightened the load and the file cabinet actually breathes!

What I learned: When first opening the file drawer and seeing all the files dealing with our three kids, immediately I instinctively wanted to shut it. There was so much and I waited this long, what is another couple of years going to do!

Who was talking? My inner critic…the one that we all have. So what to do? Let the inner critic know this is something  you have wanted to tackle and accomplish for a long time. Look to the vision…down the road, visualize what this file drawer will look like, how it is going to make you feel.  Now piles of paper gone…my kids will appreciate it when I give them their own file back someday….very soon!

Hints and Tips: Do a little bit at a time!

Recycle: Don’t just toss those papers: use for kindling, shred them (store for packaging material) or recycle with your plain papers.

What’s next: Warranty, Appliances, Vacation/Destinations

I am scheduling three hours for this one! Ugh…I will do the warranty and appliance files first, then reward myself with looking over the vacation/destination…. “Calgon, take me away.”

Working steadily,

Sallie

January 23, 2008

MY TURN, THE GAUNTLET IS DOWN

I have been asked by many of my clients, “how do I stay focused and maintain the momentum to complete a task or goal?” “How can I not be distracted?” “If I do, I set myself up for failure”.

Well, I have heard this so often enough now that I am going to do something that I never have done before. I am throwing the gauntlet down and making a pledge to myself. By Jan. 28 I am going to post on this blog my New Year Resolutions and all that I would like to complete by the end of the year….no matter how large or small. I am going to write in this blog each day (should technology and the newness of this blog not fail me) all of my failures, disappointments, wins, successes and tips that I came up with to complete my goals. What better way to show others of you out there what can be accomplished by setting the example. Through thick or thin, one way or another my list will be ticked off line by line. So stay tune…6 days until I unveil my own goals….

Yikes, what have I gotten myself into…

Warmly and with excitement,

Sallie

Taking Baby Steps

Ok, now that the gauntlet is down to reveal to the world what my New Year goals/resolutions will be, let me say that in making this list:

It will be long…as I have a year to complete it. There will be more than 15 less than 25. There will be some that will have more time needed to be allocated than others; however, nonetheless they will be listed.

1. List will be created.

2. Beside each will be how much time I believe it is needed for me to complete this.

Tip: Read tomorrow as to why I say the above. Especially about time…

Sallie

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